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Harry Connectdirector asked:

Dating Fraud Overview (september 2006)

About dating scam

This article is a warning for typical fraudulent scenarios devised and successfully employed by dating scammers. In general they want “money by deceit”. So you should be warned !

In this article we will review;

- scam scenarios

- recognize warning signs

- how to avoid being scammed

1. Scam scenarios

1.1 The fake online dating services

You will be paying for a membership of a non existing dating community and maybe you also could be charged extra for non existing contact addresses. On the pages of such agencies there are profiles of false look alike models, which were taken from the Internet. Most likely the agency will exist a few months and the websites are frequently on free hosts

1.2 The false full service dating services

Full service could mean you pay for the ‘non existing additional service’ as you will only receive meaningless replies with no actual information and an absolute disregarding of your questions — just blah. False dating bureaus and dates let you pay for organized fake and mass production on internet like matching, mediation, translations, visa’s, tickets, hotels ect.

1.3 The begging for money

After a while the scammer begins urgently to ask money for covering expenses for using Internet, translator payment, foreign languages courses, driving courses and so on.

Be sure: a sincere dater would never beg for money

1.4 The faking trouble and sick

After a while your date turns out to be paying enormous money for fake urgent needs and only a miracle — you — could help your date! Most common are the stories of children, parents, relatives, that got ill and need expensive operation or/and medicines or land-house problems, buffalo and tractor

1.5 The visiting opportunity

A very expensive kind of scam and in this kind of scenario you will not be suspicious with the scammer and the shallow requests as other scenarios ! Your date has to be perfect in all way. But suddenly there is the opportunity of some weeks of holidays for visiting you.

Now your date all has planned and has help from friends and relatives but you have to decide quick — to pay for a cheap trip, a passports, visa, insurance, etc.

1.6 The visiting problems

It can be worse if the scammer succeed and will go on with the next stage of the scam. Proved by look alike ‘official registration document’, travelling and visa problems occur and there will be a need for more money; visa can be received in another city, expensive travelling costs, additional cost for living and food, ect.

1.7 The travel preparation

Your date will insist on visiting and meeting worried and inpatient family and parents. Cash will be need for organise your staying, a special program and gifts.

1.8 The bubble fairytale

You have met and your date is perfect and a wonderful host. You will overload your date and family with gifts, luxury and overspend as you can not resist. The fairy could end as she suddenly disappear. Needless to say, you are staying at a hotel and have no idea where your date actually lives.

2 Recognize warning signs

Here you will find the main “alarm bell”- warning signs to watch out for. If you recognize your situation here, it does not necessarily mean that the lady is a scammer. An “alarm bell” is just a sign that you have to be more cautious than ever. But don’t go throwing stones at your date. Keep your eyes open and ask your date subtle questions – if your date is not sincere, you will unmask.

2.1 The photo seems too good to be true

Well, your date might have had it taken at a photographic studio. Professionals make people look at their best on photos, so it could be a fake.

2.2 The agency is blacklisted

Here you need a thorough investigation. Your date may not know anything about it or is just an agency’s hooks.

2.3 Addresses with wrong name, misspells of your name

Your date might have problems with spelling or bad memory for names but it can also be a sign that she is corresponding with an army of singles. Possible your date never use your name, as you are ‘honey’ or any synonym. Be aware; your date could be not caring or is a group of net-swindlers or a fraudulent agency.

2.4 Vague letters with no or few questions about you

You date does not seems to care. How can a date that seriously considering in having a long-term relationship have no questions?

2.5 Your questions are never or rarely answered

A serious date will understand that you have questions and try to answer them. A scammer might not even read your email.

2.6 Loves comes too fast

Well, your date might be that inflammable but it is very unlikely. Most probably, your date is not sincere.

2.7 Letters contain repeated paragraphs

Most likely, your date is writing same things to again an army of singles and use copy-paste letters. Bad sign because a date that is sincere is interested and will write personal letters.

2.8 Letters may seems like “form” letters

Scammers usually sent letters out in order – reply 1, reply 2, etc. with still some marks left. Or you can receive letters that are addressed to someone else. Seems just bad quality control of the scammer

2.9 Seductive photo’s and letters

Progressively sexual language and pictures are common themes throughout the varying scams.

2.10 Your date openly asking for gifts or money

Obvious! No comment.

3 How to avoid being scammed

If you want to be absolute certain do not start at all. But if the temptation is attracting; here some tips for a strategy you can use in your correspondence. For more firmness; check and double check.

3.1 Do not sent money and valuable gifts

The best way to avoid being scammed is not to send your date any money or valuable gifts. At least not until after you are 100% sure that your date is real.

3.2 Do not accentuate the fact that you have money

Talk about your hobbies, movies, plans for the future, anything. The subject of money will only attract scammers and gold-diggers.

3.3 Find mutual interests and talk deeply about those

Your date has to do an effort that scammers most likely will not do

3.4 Mention to visit your date

Make clear from the beginning of your correspondence that you will visit your date. This will scare off any potential scammers or they will get reckless. You find out soon and will not waist effort and time.

3.5 Talk with your date on phone

Mention that you would like to talk your date over the phone. This could be ineffective, as your date might decline due to poor English skills or lack of a phone. Anyway it will make a scammer feel uncomfortable. And if you speak to your date a reaction or the surrounding sounds could make a lot clear.

3.6 Check the internet

Perhaps you find that you are in touch with a professional dater or scammer that uses same profile, same description and name on other websites. Check also the reputation of the dating site. You even can find and make use of specialized databases and detective services!

3.7 Get her home address

Could be false so she will never receive your post letter, flowers or small gift.

3.8 The blank letter trick

Send your date a blank letter or two pages of nonsense (like ‘aldj afleifej; feijfai eniaf’) and wait your dates reaction.

3.9 Take a second profile

Not nice but highly effective. Just take a second profile and other email address and try to contact your date.

(note; Common is that for dating the computer of friend or the office is been used. If not there are Internet cafes in almost every city where e-mail can be sent and received very inexpensively)

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Jack R asked:

There are millions of single men all over the world that have found great happiness using a mail order bride service. Even though mail order bridge services are all set-up online, it is extremely different than dating girls online and the success rate is almost 100%! When first starting out with a mail order bride service, you will be taking a romantic tour of your future wife’s home country. You will be a part of huge social gatherings where you will have tons and tons of opportunities to meet thousands of attractive women. These huge gatherings are organized with food, music, and beverages. You can attend as many events as you would like to expose yourself in meeting many potential brides as you want. All these women you are meeting are there for YOU. You shouldn’t be nervous approaching any of these women and you should remain as relaxed as you can. These women are willing to leave their home country with you if you show them confidence and trust.

The whole objective of these social gatherings is for you to meet and interact with thousands of mail order bride candidates. If you see one that you like you can ask the staff for her phone number and it will be arranged for you to see her again at the next gathering. Once you find someone that you like, you will instantly get help from the staff on what to do next to pursue her. The staff can help you plan your next event with her such as a night out on the town. The staff is there to help you in achieving your goal in finding your next mail order bride.

Latin mail order bridges tend to be the most popular choice of mail order brides. The reason behind this is Latin women are sought after the most because of their natural exotic beauty. Men usually don’t meet these women before hand so it is solely based on beauty initially when seeking a mail order bride. Physical appearance is one of the primary means foreigners use when selecting the ethnicity of their future bride. The mail order bride industry is a huge business that is sweeping the nation. It is becoming more popular and acceptable day by day. You can meet the woman of your dreams in no time using a mail order bride system. There is usually a 95% success rate or better when finding your mail order bride. Once you lock the one you want you can take them back to your home country and live a happily ever life. There is nothing like showing off your new trophy wife, especially if you are a guy with below average looks. Some of the mail order brides have made the best wives in the world, taking constant care of you. When you do get your mail order bride you need to treat them with dignity and respect. If you show them respect, they will take care of you for the rest of their life!

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Emeka Esogbue asked:

If there is anything at all Africa is in need of, it is nothing but cultural education of life. The financial demands of traditional marriages and funeral ceremonies in this part of the world have completely brought many individuals and families to down to their knees, ruination and even sent them to early graves courtesy of stroke or high blood-pressure; still we are far from learning great lessons maybe because we have become inured to learning our lessons in hard ways.

Consummations of traditional marriages and funeral ceremonies constantly occur anywhere in the world but what follows upon occurrences in Africa is a situation which if not well managed could also lead to the death of newly-weds or deceased families as the case maybe. This write-up is particularly concerned about traditional marriages in Africa especially in the Nigerian society and the greedy roles played by such families.

Many traditional weddings in Africa have after the ceremonies welcomed poverties and disheartening images in the homes of the newly-weds. This can be   particularly blamed on the family of the bride because they always want everything from grooms, a situation like this may also be blamed on the couple, who for what the people of the world may assume them, overstretch their spending by accepting loans, borrowing and even disposing-off valuable possessions just to meet up with marriage demands. It is therefore not uncommon to find couple begging for foods two weeks after holding their marriage.

The aftermaths of extravagance, unnecessary grand and colourful activities that are tied to marriages often leave couples in chains, abandonment and in sorrow. I shall try to explain how families of brides in many part of Africa sale their daughters thus making life meaningless for them.

In our African society, many cultures require that a bride-price be paid before a man can marry a woman but the idea of payment of this bride-price has been mismanaged, and grotesquely distorted to means of one-day generation of money for the family of the bride. Our families in Africa have become materialistic only wondering how much more they could making marrying –off their daughters to supposedly wealthy individuals in the society. These families want to keep eating continuously from dowries and bride-price of their daughters.

A situation whereby dowries and pride-price are negotiated should be discouraged because humans are no goods and the days of slavery are past. Interestingly, it is customary for the family of the bride and groom in some part of Africa to employ the middlemen who negotiate and bargain on the price of bride-price to be paid. The same method our fore-fathers who acted as middlemen captured and negotiated away their children who were sold to Europeans slave traders. Many a marriage has been brought to an abrupt end because the representatives of families who went on negotiation would either not agree on any particular sum or the groom could simply not afford the sum levied on his wife to be. This is disgustingly terrible.

The implication of the developments pointed out here is that many unmarried cohabit and bear children which in Nigeria we call “Lagos marriage.” Sometimes cohabiting may be considered immoral in the society but the act has with financial convenience enabled many of such victims to achieve their aims because when the groom comes knocking at the of his in-laws for marriage, he is sometimes leniency maybe accorded him because of the belief that he may after all abandon their daughter.

This greed in families has also led to the bankruptcy of newly-weds and brought about elopements too, and such daughters are never to be seen again until he returns with pregnancy which her clever man may deny. An ugly situation created by this may also be seen in the availability of adult-singles who litter around African streets, many of these singles have availed themselves of the opportunities to defraud true marriage seekers online especially Americans and Europeans thus further discrediting the image of the continent.

Although, marriage negotiation remains the affair of families involved but greed for high bride-price should be checked and discouraged by governments if this social problem is to be effectively put under check and ugly consequences often leading to large number of divorces in our court should be reduced. In this way, jostling for large share of money from bride-price among family members and elders of villages should be discouraged. We may sometimes expect reasonable family members to accept half of bride-price and return the rest of it to the groom because the money will be used to take care of their daughter, and this way their daughter will be have a happy home. We have also observed some families heads who in the course of marriage negotiations state that they would accept anything given to them.

Unfortunately, many churches in Africa today have encouraged large spending and affluence in the organization of Christian marriages between their members, and many of these churches are still in existence today. It is also stands to reason to understand that two of the Christian denominations who have stood out, not being carried away by unreasonable demands are Deeper Life Bible Church and Jehovah’s Witnesses. Anyone of you who have had the opportunities to attend weddings organized by these denominations will readily agree that much time and affluence are not exhibited in these churches.

We want to call on the Nigerian Government to curtail the greed occasioned by bride-price by enacting and enforcing a law as we have seen in a tiny West African State of Togo which states that “bride-price can be paid in kind or in cash or in both ways”     

The law adds: “In no case should the amount exceed the sum of 10,000 F CFA (US$20.00).” (Negotiating a Reasonable Bride-Price, www. Watchtower.org)

Our Government of Nigeria should also realize that it owes its subjects social responsibilities, and operating this will make our society a good for all and finally reduce corruption and desperation among the youths of the country. After all marriage can be a free gift from God, and most youths who plunder the society, engage in robberies, assassinations and other forms of nefarious activities do so to favour women.

Chinese bride

David Roggy asked:

Black dating services including African and Black dating sites are becoming popular these days. There are some Black dating services online these days so selecting the best Black personals service is not easy. Black singles online should join free Black dating services in Black or others to find their special Black girls and Black women for dating, love, and romance. If you are ready to meet that special someone online, you can check out free Black dating services, where you can browse profiles of quality free Black singles like yourself for free. It takes time to find that special someone so you might consider joining more than one of these free Black dating services to increase your chances to find your future Black soul mate. There are some of quality free Black dating sites on the Internet these days so you have to select the one that you trust at most. Seeking soul mates who are interested in you is not easy. Our mission is to provide the best free Black dating service for singles who seek each other online. 

Most people place their personal profile on Black dating websites are to have one purpose, looking for a right single Black man or single Black woman for love and romance. They sometimes do not post their personal profiles on Black dating services effectively. We suggest that you visit at least some famous free Black dating sites then post your profiles with photos of yourself. Search for at least 10 Black singles from these free African dating sites who have the same interests as you, then contact them all. This way increases your chances to get response from two or three singles. Also, you should go back to your profile to review and update your personal ads weekly. These African dating services have newest members every minute or two so you can contact them as quickly as possible. Contact new profiles have more chances than old profiles. They try to bring you the most fun and convenient ways about Black dating advice and dating tips so you can use on your own profiles.

Some Black dating sites claim they are free but will charge you membership fee for contacting other members. Some Black dating services offer 100% free to help Black singles locally and around the world for relationships and marriage. You will never miss the change meeting and dating African singles of your choice and our free Black dating site assures that you get the most top dating experience ever. Most Black dating service does not allow under 18 years old members and this is their legal term of use their free Black dating websites. Placing your personal ad now at the Black dating service and you never know what or who you might find. Then, register your profile and start contacting other members. Good luck to you and we hope you have a good day.

Black girls and Black women are waiting for you. So, are you ready to meet that special Black singles? do not wait. Take action now. Join these free Black dating services and meet that special soul mate of your dream.

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Stanislaw Pena asked:

Polish marriage is no different from any marriage. As Poland is basically 90% Catholics, the marriage is ordained by the church. In essence, Polish marriage starts with a typical Catholic wedding where the bride and groom face the priest who officiate the wedding.

The wedding is attended by the bride and groom’s family and friends. The objective of the ceremony is to unite the couples in holy matrimony. Once they are declared as husband and wife by the officiating minister, they are considered to be married both in the eyes of the public and in the eyes of God.

However, not all Polish marriages started with a church wedding. Man and woman who plan to get married can have marriage rites from civil wedding rather than church wedding. Civil wedding is considered legal since it is declared by a judge, and it is supported by legal documents stating the marriage of the couples.

The legal documents are registered in the Civil Registry and other corresponding government agencies that declare the union of the couples, thus changing their marital status. Nevertheless, some weddings for couples in Poland may start with a civil wedding and proceeded with church wedding. This double event in wedding was rampant during the communist ruling where the government does not consider it legal if only the church wedding was done.

Today, however, it is already acceptable for two couples to proceed with the church wedding as consistent announcement and documentation follow to make the Polish marriage legal. In other words, there is no need to prepare for civil wedding and church wedding, as part of the church wedding preparation is the documentation of marriage union.

Polish marriage basically starts at the age of twenty-three for women and twenty-six for men. Whilst Polish marriage is a decision between man and woman, the woman is put in the spotlight in marriage because they are the ones who handle the family matters most of the time. Poland cultures give importance to the family and it is up to the woman to see to it that the affairs of the family are in place.

Of course, men also have influence on the success and failure of Polish marriage but women have more influence than men. Women generally are given the responsibility as the homemaker, raising children, taking care of spouse, and ensuring that everyone is satisfied and happy as much as possible.

In fact, while men have only one job to take, women have the tendency to work double jobs just to ensure that every financial need will be met in the family. Generally, women in Poland are educated, so they can work professionally even when they are married.

In conclusion, Polish marriage starts with a wedding either in civil ceremony or church ceremony. In modern times, church weddings would usually suffice. When the couples are married the woman has a greater role and influence over the affairs of the family. They are given huge responsibility to take care of the children and her husband. Since most women are educated, they can work professionally and they do so even if it means working double jobs. This is usually done for the sake of the family that they built.

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